I have been trying to make a decision if I should go see my boyfriend over spring break. Seeing as how he lives 12 hours away, it is a big commitment. I have been talking to my family, friends and of course my boyfriend. Everyone has a strong opinion about what I should do. I am so lost. Who should I listen to? What should I do?
It’s a bummer that you are so far apart from your boyfriend. It is natural for you to want to go out and see him. However, this is a big decision you need to look at all the variables and consider the pros and cons of each side.
It is natural to reach for those closest to you to help make this decision but ultimately this is your life and it is your choice. As Dr. Seuss once said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You,” This is something to keep in mind while you are thinking over your decision. Nobody knows you like you know yourself and therefore no one can tell you what is best for you other than yourself.
You will come across people that will disagree with your choice or tell you that you are wrong but don’t listen to them do what is right for you. If they are your true friends they will support your decision even if they don’t agree with it. Don’t second guess yourself or worry about pleasing everyone, just do what is right for you.
That being said you can still ask your friends and family for advice, beucause they may help you realize what you already know. Just don’t look to them for the final answer because that lies within you. You are not lost, you just have not found your way yet. Keep looking I am sure you will find it.